Monday, February 13, 2012

Entry #32: A Happy Butterfly of a Fish, The BioOrb and Others' Happiness

Dear All:
The mild temperature of this year's Valentine's Day (2012) have given the backyard birds another chance to dazzle me with their angelic ways. They swirl and twirl to and from the dark grey craggy branches just outside the window, who miss their green, delicate leaves this time of year. The Robins' continue piping along the leafless flower beds, the Blue Jays' loud mischievous cries still comfort me somehow and the White Throated Sparrows', (the most darling of all) clear bell of a whistle reminds me (like the bright sunshine on a cold morning) that God's light is right here.  

Brady's birthday gift was a black gold fish. He is like a remarkable butterfly (with flowery, dancing wings), only he is fish. When he is not slurping the filtered water on top of his globe, he is waving bubbles at us like the welcoming committee in the kitchen.  He came to us in a small bowl with some brightly color rocks. I thought to myself, "This fish cannot live like this, because these aquatic rocks are holding some hard core dyes that are unsuitable for a fish (James Fierro witnessed my expression and found great delight in my judgmental dismay)." I went to Pet Smart and purchased a BioOrb which is a natural globe of a fish tank (and quite decorative, may I add). Each time I pass the BioOrb, I wrap my arms around the tank, while beaming at this butterfly of a fish, and thank him for his endearing ways. 

While being dazzled by nature's ways and observing Brady's fish in a naturally green aquarium (yahoo!) I've often asked myself when did I understand the meaning/ feelings associated with love? Because we all know that love comes in very mysterious packages. 1) Is it the feeling it gives us or 2) is it the meaning/ understanding of love, that gives us so much satisfaction? Is it both?

In my relentless pursuit of happiness, I've been lucky to recall life's moments and the feeling(s) associated with the feeling of love/or being loved. As a baby, I felt love in my mother's beautifully tender voice and I see it in the way people love and adore their animals. My most dramatic and useful experience of its meaning came when I finally learned that the happiness of "others" is more important than my own (sigh). 

I realized that if I see others' happiness as more important than my own (from a place of strength), 1) I get to love everyone til the cows come (and we hope those cows never come home), 2) I am given the gift of "empathy" 3) If I am concentrating on others' happiness, no one can be disappointed 4) I will not be disappointed because, my goal is others' happiness 5) considering others happiness (feelings) can help me lose my ego, which is debilitating in every way  6) considering other's happiness can help me navigate my thoughts better 7) if I focus on other's happiness-- is that God being "in the details?" 8) focusing on other's happiness takes away from my selfish ways (ask Todd, he will tell you) 9) considering other's happiness will help me be present (actively listening), which is the best gift I can give to anyone and 10) focusing on others' happiness could bring me joy, because that is transcendence to another place other than myself? Is that what our spiritual leaders and masters are trying to say? 

Get Over It Please Tweets
  1. Is love--happiness, or is happiness-- love? 
  2. The world is about everyone else, not me. What a relief!
Thank you all for reading in your busy days this Winter. If the sunshine continues, then so will the bird's delightful songs (its all how you look at it) and if we are making more green products than ever before (BioOrb Aquariums at PetSmart available now) and if others' happiness is the path to our transcendence, then nothing can go that wrong right?

Let's pray for the women, children and animals who need our determined and fierce protection at all times.

With Love and Sincerely, 



  1. Hello My Friend,
    Thank you for reminding me to take time to listen to nature's pearls. I do hear the beautiful melodies that play right ouside my kitchen! As for your tweet, I think that Love & Happiness are truly interchangeable and interdependent. Fortunate are those that allow it into their world everyday! Love you Honey, Cindy

  2. Hello Lamb:

    Yahoo for the chorus in the back yard and pearls they are indeed.

    That tweet sort of created itself today and you are so right about the fact that they are interchangeable. So tomorrow on Valentine's Day, I will say to my beloved, I Happy You! He He

    Bring the love, bring the happiness!


  3. Good morning, Kristen (and Cindy!), so nice to see you girls here. It's so wonderful that you now have a beautiful black butterfly of a fish. What a great gift to Brady. And I'm so happy you got your fish a BioOrb! I'd never heard of it. Thank you for teaching me. I also love the images you express - how she/he looks like a butterfly and slurps the top of the water and how you hug the aquarium in the kitchen. So much love.

    I'm a big fan of the birds in the backyard too. They give me hope. Love you. xoxo

  4. HI Susan:

    Oh I love your idea that birds give us hope. It is the perfect saying. I know they are so angelic and dear in their ways, I am in awe, absolutely.

    Little fish of a guy is adorable. He smiles and dances, it is enchanting to say the least. Love him til the cows come I tell you. I seriously hug the tank and I am like do you want to get married? To a fish, oh boy.

    Love you girl.


  5. I'd love to see your beautiful butterfly fish ♥

    1. HI:

      Oh thank you so much for dropping in we appreciate it.
      My little fish is so happy as we flutters all around his BioOrb Aquarium. I think he smiles, but that is just me.
      Enjoy today and most importantly, your journey.


  6. Hi Kristen,
    I was just chatting with my mother the other day and she was telling me all about how she never remembered the birds chirping so loudly in the Winter! Is it because they know Spring is coming soon or is because they just didn't want to leave this Winter so they could stay and continue to bring joy to those who delight in their song? The Black Butterfly Fish seems like a lovely addition to your family. I am so pleased that he is living happily in his little green biosphere and that despite the wall of glass that separates him from the world outside, he still receives hugs for Valentine's Day! It demonstrates that we are able to show love with our hearts and minds. As it should be.

  7. Hi Liz:

    Oh I love that and your mother were chatting about the birds.

    I think my birds may pop in cause I have trees with canopy in the backyard so they can hide. Maybe the climate change has something to do with it.

    On my milk carton, it says that morning doves are moving farther up north b/c of that and they are in danger because of the cold climate. I am like their deep sorrowful whistle is so beautiful though, so...

    I hope someday you can come by and say hello to the birds.

    But hey if we are living in the moment and observing their angelic suggestion, then we are so very good to go. I got to be in the moment or else I don't know what to do!

    That little fish just flutters til the cows come home. He comes right up to the glass with a happy smile like, good morning and I am happy today. He is telling us that all is well in his little orb, which makes for a good day.

    It is a sunny Friday and we are taking it.
    Love you Liz and thanks for your input here at GOYP! Yahoo.
    Love you til the cows come home.


  8. Hi Kristen!

    Excellent job on your blog. This is great material for your building body of work.

    Keep thinking and writing.

    All the best

  9. Hi:

    Oh thank you so much for your comments. What a compliment coming from someone that KNOWS all about it. ! I so appreciate it.


  10. What a beautiful way to look at the world. I've just been working on the idea of service vs. ego as I prepare a workshop--so good timing, confirming this important message--thanks.

  11. Hi Lisa:

    Thank you very much for your comments. I so appreciate it.

    Talk to you soon I hope.