Here is a little un-chicken soup for the married/attached/souls out there!
Getting Over Yourself Please in Love
- Try and be in a constant state of loving kindness to your wife/husband, even when they are not immediately showing it back to you. if they are acting uninspired (within reason), then you act peaceful, the results will stagger you with delight. Our relationships are a mirror of ourselves.
- Let your spouse shout (within reason) at you, if they are in an upheaval. If you hurt their feelings, try and say your sorry and get to the what is bothering them. Ask them in a kind way. Demonstrate removing your ego from conflict with a a partner and build trust.
- If your partner is struggling (within reason, this could apply to first time parents) and ready to blow their top, sit them down and ask what it is, do not turn around and struggle too, this is not productive. Please try and not demonstrate reactive behavior.
- Try and have an argument without raising your voice (I did it once and it was awesome). It is so powerful and cool.
- Have sex no matter what, if you still have a desire to be married. At the most inconvenient time just do it for the team. Your day will come I promise. Sex is a gift, enjoy the happiness.
- Love your in laws/family unconditionally. No matter how unlike you they are. Your spouse will appreciate it.
- Surrender to your marriage or partnership lovingly and actually try and be as humble and happy to serve up your loving sincere kindness every day. The results are spectacular. (being in the center of a family can make you tired at times). Get Over Yourself and love everybody always because it is the best way to go.
- When we restrain our egotistical emotions and motivations from life situations and remove ourselves, (me and me and how about me, all day long, conscious or unconscious) it is a very easy and peaceful place to be (if you are lucky person in this world to be loved, warm and healthy).
Get Over It!
"My Life Listens To Yours" - unknown
"Live For Each Other" Green Tea Bag (I love the saying on tea bags, the best)
"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage." - Lao-Tzu
With Love and Sincerely,