Friday, December 30, 2011

Entry #30: The Year 2011: Sunlight's Promise, Feeling A Hopeful Universe and Our Illumination

Dear All:
The sun's blinding rays at the moment (1/1/12) are just a glimpse of 2011's magnificent display of winter's fantastic, springtime's happy budding magic, summer's radiant bloom and autumn's explosive firework show. We've used these images to enrich our hopes and dreams this year at Get Over Yourself Please.  The backyard's illuminating ways and the sunlight's promise have  given us  "the feeling" of a Hopeful Universe. We've shared insights on our own ways to divinity, to the state of happy detachment, while eating our delicious humble pie, haven't we? 

While loving you all til the cows come home, it has been a LoveFest with Twitter, it's been a celebration of Love Lights Glowing while Loving Until It Hurts (because that is all we have). We've discussed winter's harsh command and its forgiving ways, we've discussed the feeling of joy, and September's happy shining days! 

We've observed heaven on earth right outside the window. The unquestionable Baltimore Orioles flurry (only come in May), our Baby Quails divine purpose (at Seatuck Environmental Center whom are working on eradicating the tick infestation), the melancholy cries of October's Blue Jay and our unforgettable Robin's determination and ubiquity. Lastly, I cannot leave out my Adorable Jelly-- The Ballerina, and her memorable dance of perfection, right in Sag Harbor. Let's hear it for the Jellies!

  1. Heaven on earth is the new breeze that comes in from an open window during the bright month of May!
  2. Heaven on earth is September's daylight that illuminates every leaf, flower and tree with its happy smile, Good morning!
  3. The backyard birds are chanting like angels in September's bright stillness.
  4. Heaven on earth is the sun's bright light & the warmth it brings me this Indian Summer Season.

We have loved nature's backyard beauty (realizing how fragile it is & nourish our thoughts for its survival). We have honored our sun's daylight and happy cloud formations. We have had quite a parade of delightful flowers from Spring to Summer and Fall. How about the the explosion of june bride yellow bouquets picked to perfection from Block Island's Farmer's Market in mid July and the dark orange zinnias waving from the garden in August ? Lastly, we applauded the flower's beauty pageant (just hours before Hurricane Irene) right downstairs in the kitchen, on our window sill. I voted for Little Miss Orange Sunshine or was it the Giggly Preppy Pink Girls?

  1. I'll have a glass of bright orange flowers, please.
  2. Sunlight enriches my experience with everything!
  3. "Flowers are like human beings, they thrive on a little kindness."--Fred Streeter
  4. I'm going with the flowers.
We have thanked our amazing Joseph Campbell (Author of The Power of Myth) for helping us understand that we are in charge of our hearty adventure (in darkness and in light). We have referenced at great length, my favorite Hindu, Deepak Chopra (whose reflections have had positive influence on my behaviors ), our adorable Dalai Lama's Kindness Policy (which is not easy from where he resides) and our determined and radiant Mother Theresa. She says, "Keep loving and then keep loving more." I have to thank Maya Angelou's tale on NPR one day (who's QuoteTeam follows Get Over It Please/kkshaw47 on Twitter, what an honor!) We have seen the lessons in failure with Jimmy Carter who went from an unfavorable presidency in the 1970s to winning a Nobel Peace Price in 2002 (maybe there is hope for President Barack Obama.) Lastly, we were grateful to Oprah Winfrey, the spiritual leader of our time, for lifting us, time and time again.

  1. "I have found the paradox, that if you love until it hurts, there can be no more hurt, only more love."--Mother Theresa
  2. "I don't have to have faith, I have experience."--Joseph Campbell
  3. "My religion is very simple, my religion is kindness.:--Dalai Lama

We have honored the Hero , which is a central theme in Joseph Campbell's writing. The hero who sacrifices for others has given life "great meaning". We have begun to understand the power of a Hero's consciousness (more now since I recently got my head out of my ass, sigh). We are now observing our problems abroad in Iraq (16 fucking suicide bombs go off at the same time the day we are withdrawing our troops, WTF kind of message is that?), Afghhanistan and now Pakistan. We learned of Pat Tillman's story and its devastating cover up. We've begun to look at our government in a different way. We now ask, just who's in charge in Congress and The House of Representatives in our districts, exactly? We have questioned Corporate America's Lobbying initiative ( lobbying can be effective in environmental /wildlife protection, by the way). We are starting to ask ourselves, can we "re-write" laws to further protect the women, children and animals of our community, our nation and the world? Yes, we are going to try til the cows come home, right?

We have saluted our environmentalists, Seatuck Environmental Center and The Nature Conservancy. We have declared Block Island, The Hopeful Universe. We have considered Rain Barrells as an alternative solution to water supply and Wind Energy too.

And finally, Getting Over Ourselves, which is never dull, starting with me. We have gone within ourselves to question the purpose of our egos (that is useful when you are growing as a child and young adult) and its destructive path. We have learned about our Reactive Crazy (again, can I get a trademark here?) and using Acceptance as a key to our problems as a coping tool (thank you Narcotics/Alcoholics Anonymous).

Reactive Crazy is the "culprit? in most major/minor conflicts. Reactive Crazy is the bruised, hurt, nasty, comeback to anything we are not prepared to hear about ourselves. It is a huge disappointment for me to observe and when I act out myself. Why can't we hear anything that is unfavorable about ourselves, in order to grow up? How can we achieve spiritual illumination?The misuse of our ego and our Reactive Crazy is revealing in marriage, family life, friendships and in our careers.  I'm just sayin...

  1. I fired my ego today!
  2. Has anyone brought your ego and its silliness to your attention and you thanked them for it?
  3. "Those who are free of resentful thoughts, surely find peace."--Buddha
  4. I Get Over Myself when I allow my loved ones to completely disagree with me.
  5. I Get Over Myself when I must accept what I do not necessary like in a positive way.
  6. If someone I love is struggling for whatever reason, I have to let them have their feelings, right?
  7. No ego with that please.
  8. My reactive crazy never disappoints me, yikes!

We've discussed the ramifications of karma. We've observed that our thoughts and actions have everything to do with our reality. We have realized that humility is a gift as well as active listening and focused attention (our dear children teach us that every minute of the day, right)?


  1. "Understand Karma. No debt in the universe goes unpaid."--Deepak Chopra
  2. "Total attention is the best gift I can give anyone."-- Deepak Chopra
  3. "Your imagination will create drama out of nothing unless you live in the moment."--Yahoo Astrology
  4. "Good thoughts cannot produce bad results, bad thoughts cannot produce good results."--James Allen
We have learned that losing our self importance could give us peace and calm. Once I let go of my version of disappointment and my self protection (that was my ego) I was somehow relieved. When I Got Over Myself, I was in a state of relief from my senseless attachment to all things good/bad.

  1. Is to let go a way of being in full control?
  2. Does your self importance cause you emotional gridlock with yourself and loved ones?
  3. I made friends with the abyss long ago
  4. Thank you for the abyss, it saved my life.
  5. I Got Over Myself today, what a relief!
As the fireflies have waved goodbye in late summer along with their friends, the trees that turn the color of tangerine lollipops (good enough to eat) and with the sun's blessing, we say thank you for reading in your busy days this year. If we continue to nourish our thoughts for a Hopeful Universe (no matter what is happening) and we lose our self importance and attachment to everything good and bad, then nothing can go that wrong right?

  1. We are in this world together.
  2. "Remember The Children"--Darrell Ford Jr.'s Winter Coat Button
  3. "Dear God, help me to be gentle and kind to every living creature."--A Prayer A Day
Let's pray for the women, children and animals who need our determined and fierce protection at all times.

With Love & Sincerely,


P.S. You are all awesome!


  1. Oh what a year it has been! I love you and wish you and all I love a very healthy & emotionally fulfilling new year to come. Thank you for keeping my emotions in check. Love you forever, Cindy.

  2. Hi Lambie:

    Here you are what a delight! How was your fantastic trip and festivies? 2011 was a great year I believe.

    Love you til the cows come home girl. Are you home?

  3. Dearest Krissy,
    A poetic start to a new year!!! May 2012 shower us all with many blessings!!
    Love you to the moon and back again,
    Lynnie xoxo

  4. I agree with Lynnie, such a poetic post! It was like reading the Best of Get Over Yourself Please.

    Kristen, you have grown so much this year. What a journey you've taken us all on. Your quest for spiritual growth is a true inspiration. Thank you for keeping it so real and deep - and throwing in those bombs of humor that never fail to crack me up. Happy New Year, dear friend. Love you xoxo

  5. HI Lynnie:
    OH girl here you are with all of your wintier sparkles on!

    Thank you for your awesome participation this year at Get Over It, Please!

    This blog nation is such an inspiration for all of us right everyone?

    Love you til the cows come home.


  6. Hi Sue:

    Oh I love to see you every single time. I think of you so very often. I say to myself," What would Susan think"? Is she walking here dogs? CA is so beautiful, New York is too, but you know exactly what I mean. I think, "Susan is saying, KK is using the word ubiquity in a sentence, oh boy we have come a long way."--he he right?

    Susan you have been a tremendous guide and teacher for me (in grade school and high school and through the years) this year and I thank you so much with having the patience and know how on our bloggies!

    I did try and make it a Best of GOY, (kind of) so that I am going off into my tangents like crazy, you know? There has got to be a beginning, med and end to all of this right? With me there is too much - middle, ha ha again!

    It is a chilling cold today, very dark and grey like the witches are about to come out, you know? The happy birds are chirping which is always a relief somehow to our days. I thank god for them, and you too my darling.

    Love you lamb and you are always in my heart.


  7. Hi Krissy
    Your tidbits of getting over yourself are inspiring as always. My beautiful doggies are my inspiration for the most part, along with the trees and the flowers and the water and the sky...nature has a way of working its way into my heart and soul and providing me with the strength to get through the toughest times - and all without words. But your words express what I think nature and the animals are saying all along. Happy New Year to you and yours and keep it coming. xo L.

  8. Here is to a beautiful, bountiful and, above all, healthy 2012. Your insights do much for our inner health! Keep them coming and keep your bright light blazing. My world is a better place because you are in it.

  9. Hi Liz:

    Oh dearie I am so happy that we all feel the love in our nature and animals. We are all so blessed to have one another and share this great adventure together.

    You are a very dear soul in this world. Keep the love alive with each day.

    Love you til the cows come home.


  10. HI Barbie Girl:

    Thank you checking in to GOYP! Each day we try and look within for the answers to live in better balance. Balance can be a challenge sometimes but that is what it is all about.

    I am very thankful that you are in my life Miss Barb, you are so sharp and funny.

    I will have that girlie wine gathering in my kitchen sometime this year, even if I don't have any (yahoo!).

    Love you til the cows come home. Happy New Year to the dear Schaefers!


  11. Hey Baby, it's been a great year of writing and the journey continues!

  12. Hi Toddy:
    Thank you for listening and encouraging me along the way.